Oh Weddings

So my BFF is getting married next weekend. I'm thrilled for her. I'm at that point of my 30's where basically all my friends are married, getting married or have been married for a while. 

I am not married.

I've been engaged 3 times.

My grandmother is convinced that I'm never getting married. 

I'm totally happy. Actually, I can't pinpoint a point in my adult life that I was ever happier or more content than I am at this moment. I love who I am. I'm happy with the person I've become. My friends are incredible. I never feel alone. 

Do I want to be married?   Yes. I think so. 

Will the world crash and end if I never do? Nope.

Do I want children? Yes. I am sure of this.

Do I need to be married for this to happen? Nope. 

While I am certain I would have fit in perfectly in another time period, the 50's for sock hops or the 20's for the style...I'm certain that I'm happy that in 2013 I do not have to be married to live my dreams. 

Healing

How do you know you've healed?

You stop crying. Yep. There's one indicator.

You stop checking every possible source of communication to see if they have contacted you. Yep, that's another.

You throw away every photo of the two of you together with no regret of what, 'might have been.' That's a good one and really hard to do.

You see them in public and don't break down. You walk up and hug them, hold a good conversation that actually ends in laughter. At no point in this conversation do either of you insult the other in any way. You walk away feeling like you've just spoken to an old friend, not a mortal enemy.

That...is proof that you've healed.